All therapy is conducted through the medium of the relationship between client and therapist. There are three basic components of the therapeutic process: the relationship, the assessment, and the intervention. It is through the humanity of the therapist that the empathic connection is made with the client, that the therapist understands and intuits what is driving the pathology in the client and clients’ relationships, and that the therapist reaches the most wounded and vulnerable places in the client when intervening. But, what is this “humanity”? It is the life experiences, gender, culture, race/ethnicity, spirituality, etc. of the therapist – but most especially the therapist’s own personal woundedness through which the therapist can relate to the client’s woundedness. We will present here on how therapists can more fully and effectively utilize all of their selves, taking their therapy to another level when working purposefully and professionally through their own person.